On a scale of one to ten, I would rate my physical wellbeing at seven or eight right now. You see, I am seven months pregnant, and things are getting a lot harder to do! Putting my shoes on takes my breath away! haha! Although my weight gain is right where I am supposed to be and I have had no adverse health conditions, I still can feel how much being pregnant has slowed me down. (I actually don't like that!) But I also understand that I am taking care of myself and soon to be baby girl. :) So I can't be off-roading, or climbing in rafters anymore! haha! I do have a goal for myself in this area after I am done being pregnant--and I think it is a very popular one amongst pregnant women: to fit in my pre-pregnancy clothes! And also to attain the same physical fitness level (by working on my push ups, sit ups, and two mile run) that has become expected of me as a soldier.
In the psychological department, I would give myself an eight or nine. I'm pretty strong willed when it comes to things I want or want to do. However, I think where I fault is empathizing with too much with people who do mean a lot to me (family or a client). Like my mom, for example. She worries about things that I just don't think are worth worrying about! And then when she talks to me about her problems, I find myself starting to worry or feel bad myself. But that is where I have to talk myself out of that and remind myself that her problems are not my problems. And I am simply a shoulder to cry on, and I can give a lending ear and some advice. From there, it is up to the person to take steps to help fix the problem, not just simply talk about it. I can also handle a lot of different things going on at one time. So I would say I'm a good multi-tasker and I can adapt and adjust as situations dictate. A goal in this department would be to stay on track with my personal agenda while maintaining a professional distance so not to become empathetically exhausted. (that would not be good for my career choice!) And this simply takes practice and self awareness.
Oh my, and the spiritual wellbeing. I would have to rate myself at a seven or eight. I am not where I want to be. But I am working on it. I used to go to church every Sunday. And then when I got pregnant, time has just escaped me somehow. So I started to go back to church. I want to be able to raise my little girl in our church, and I want her to learn about God and Jesus. I do pray everyday, more conversationally than anything else. However, I want to learn more about the Bible and the stories that I can share with my little one. I think that is important. So to improve my self rating, I can go to church, pay attention, and even do some Bible study on my own. I have a niece who is two and a half years old and loves going to church, so she also motivates me to want to take her! She loves going, so I want to make sure she gets to go!
I tried the link for the Crime of the Century relaxation exercise three times this evening, and each time there has been an error saying that the content could not be displayed. So I will have to try again later. Hopefully tomorrow! I will post about it once I am able to access it! Until next time, see you in class or in your blogs!
Mariah Joyce
I’m so impressed with your personal scores (and admittedly jealous – ha!). I’ve done a bit of back-sliding in the last few months so I’m coming to realize that this class couldn’t have come at a better time. I’m looking forward to learning tips and some new methods of doing things from you and others throughout the term. Congratulations on your pregnancy! That is so exciting – what a positive adventure to be on, and during the holidays! I loved your joke about not being able to off-road and climb in the rafters at the moment….and in all seriousness, thanks for all that you do in your service for us! I look forward to following you throughout the term and seeing what I can learn from you!
ReplyDeleteHave a great week,
Emi
Hi Emi,
DeleteThank you for your response! What are some things that you would like to improve on in your life? Sometimes, when I am feeling sad or stressed, I just start to thank God for all the good things in my life. And then everything else just seems to go away. (I just realized that I kind of sound like that song from the Sound of Music: My Favorite Things! haha!) But seriously, it does help me, and maybe it could help you too.
Here, I will share with you some things from my weekend: we had our Baby Shower on Sunday. It was mainly women, but we invited some of the guys from our Unit, because they are family too. We had a wonderful turn out! And we got so many wonderful gifts to help welcome and prepare for the arrival of our little one. My mother in law and her three sisters tried everything to make the day miserable--and I'm not kidding. They were rude to other guests, they made my sister in law cry, they were rude to the servers, they were even mean to me (but I didn't let them get to me...the reason of the event is too exciting!). They also had the nerve to criticize the gifts that other people brought. It was stressful for my husband (because it was his family members misbehaving) and other family members who worked so hard to make that day special for us. So, instead of getting upset about their behavior, I decided that I was just going to look at the fact that so many people came to celebrate the arrival of our baby. And because so many people came, regardless of how bad the weather was, shows me that we have so many great people in our lives that are excited for us and support us. Additionally, for the men that came, although baby showers are traditionally an event attended by women only--they still came and had a good time. My point is, when things are going really crappy, sometimes we just have to look, and sometimes look hard, for the good parts about the situation. It's all about perception! I hope this helps and I didn't ramble on too much. But I saw from your profile that you are married--and that is a wonderful thing to be thankful for!
Talk to you soon, and see you in your blog!
Mariah
Hey Mariah,
ReplyDeleteThe goals in which you speak about seem very legit in how you would like to obtain them. It is ok to have a professional setting for yourself although keep in mind that it is necessary to strive to actually get where there person is coming from (like putting yourself in their shoes). This is not to say stay there only to get a better perspective of where they are coming from. As for your physical being you are so on track that once little baby comes it will not take much for you to get back to the swing of things. Allow yourself the time to physical and mentally graduate from barren your child. Going to church is wonderful and extremely pleasing to witness children attending. Now for me teaching out of the bible was a gift. What I did is I would take the chapter I was interested in teaching and depending on the age would transpose it to that level. Now when I was growing up my mom had these books delivered to us (call The Bible Stories). They are comprehensive, colorful and had nice stories that a child could understand. These books can be ordered http://www.thebiblestory.com/tbs/index.php and your baby will soon be picking up to read. The strategies that you have are smart but would not be a benefit to me since our sights are not of the same condition. I do feel in some instance the goal of your professional being would assist me to not be so attached.
MBennett
Hi MBennet,
DeleteThank you for your response! And thank you for that website! I'm serious, I might buy some of those books for my niece for Christmas, and even my baby! I think that is just wonderful! We had our baby shower over the weekend and we got lots of wonderful books to read to her! I can't wait! She is due in February, and I hope she comes out really chubby! haha! I love chubby babies!
Mariah
Mariah - Congrats on your pregnancy! I am sure you will be climbing the rafters, off-roading and tying you shoes again in the near future :-). Meanwhile, enjoy that piece of love you are nurturing, nourishing and nesting. I am sure you will love being a mommie! You positive way of dealing with people and issues will be an asset. Can't wait to see pictures! - Patty
DeleteMariah,
ReplyDeleteI totally agree when you discussed your spiritual well-being. Although our circumstances our different, I tend to not go to church as often as I once did and there is not a really solid answer as to why. I do believe however that regardless of our faith, we are not judged at the pearly white gates (if that's what you believe in) by how many times we walked through the church doors on a Sunday morning. I believe in God and feel that as long as I hold my faith strong and know what I value, then I am at a spiritual balance.
Thanks,
Chris